Change from a “nobody” to “somebody” with a bit of effort
As you may know, I read a lot of articles about psychiatric disorders – mental anguish and such. Most of it is “news” or blogs from other people who are “afflicted.” I also have a fair number of friends on Facebook and other social media and this morning I came across a story that I think is important.
A lot of what you read on social media is junk, blatantly untrue – or just plain dumb but this morning’s post from a friend actually made an impact, and I thought I would share.
It was a story about a boy who had lost his father. He was severely depressed and spent a lot of time alone. He truly felt like a non-person.
Because he had lost his father, he had pictures of him posted in his locker – that some unkind students ripped down. Naturally, this made him even more depressed and despondent. However, the boy did something amazing which has changed how people treat him. He made a decision not to be a “nobody” anymore.
Through some amazing feat of self, through some incredible burst of courage, he began doing something very simple. He stood at the front of the school and began holding the door open for other students.
After a while, people started to say “thank you.” After another short while, he was able to smile and greet the students when he opened the door with a simple “Hi.” The students again responded well – with a response of “Hi, how are you”.
As you can expect, the more interest he showed in the students – the less they overlooked him. He changed himself from a “nobody” to “somebody” with just a bit of effort.
This certainly seems a bit unfair – that the boy was required do put out the first effort, but it worked – it worked well.
When kids are bullied –or simply ignored, it is a natural response to retreat into a shell. Only hoping no one will notice them, and maybe the pain will stop.
It takes a lot of courage to get up and do something nice for someone else when you don’t feel like it. But it can give the bullied a sense of empowerment, a notification to others that you can’t be ignored. You are a person and deserved to be treated as such.
It may not work; it may be a stretch, but rather than telling those who are bullied, “ignore it”, just maybe, we should encourage them to take back their power. Who knows, it just may work. It may relieve some of the extreme anguish and depression that these students fall victim to. In fact, it may save their life.
Just something to consider.
“Bullies picked on him every day, until he started doing one simple thing to turn it around”