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Aromatherapy as Treatment of Depression

We are all affected by sights, sounds, and smells.

That is why aromatherapy is effective for so many different things that we may experience in our lives. It includes physical illnesses as well as mental setbacks, such as depression. In fact, aromatherapy is highly effective in easing the symptoms of depression.

LavenderLavender is one of the most effective scents for the treatment of depression. This scent increases the instance of waves in the back of the head, which promotes relaxation. Jasmine is also another well-known scent, as it increases the example of waves in the front of the head.

However, the waves increased in the back of the head with lavender are alpha waves — for relaxation — while the waves increased in the front of the head are beta waves — for alertness.

Aside from lavender and jasmine, other scents are also useful for various aspects of depression symptoms. These include clary sage (insomnia), basil (fatigue), rose (nervous system), and sandalwood (tension). Other prominent scents that may ease symptoms of depression include chamomile, patchouli, bergamot, rosemary, and geranium.

Essential OilWhile you can use candles for aromatherapy, the ideal method is to use essential oils of the herb scent that you require. Essential oils can be used as diffusers, in baths, massages, or even as perfume or body splashes.

Again, when using scents for aromatherapy, the oils are more effective than candles. These oils can be purchased from health food stores and online sources. In many cases, you will receive a small break on the cost when ordering larger quantities.

While aromatherapy will ease symptoms of depression, it should not replace therapy that is needed to treat depression, and it may not even replace medications used for treatment of depression.

Be sure to discuss treatment options with your doctor.

When aromatherapy is used as treatment of depression, oils are more effective than candles

Borderline Personality Disorder – True Story

A true Borderline Personality Disorder story

BPD – The likeable guy who suddenly isn’t

I once knew a man who I met through a friend.  When I met him, she was already planning on marrying him so I could not say much of anything.  He was an utterly likeable guy who was fun, fun-loving and an all-around joy to be near, but there was something I couldn’t understand.

My friend, due to her previous life experiences involving traumatic loss, was extremely opposed to anyone she loved being in the police service.  Her fiancé had been a marine and had later gone into the military police.  He had retired from the military and was working in his family business as the Vice President but had also grown his hair out, dressed in very casual clothing and loved race-cars.  He swore “blind” that he would never enter the military or law enforcement again.

This fun-loving person with long hair, wearing tank tops and racing cars was the guy I met.  He was also mechanically inept – couldn’t put a shelf on a wall or even put a barbeque grill together with instructions.  After they had got married, my husband and another friend spent many hours doing “fix-it” work around their house – taking things such as grass spreaders and playground sets apart to put them back together correctly.

Borderline Personality Disorder - Swirly MindHe was also very generous – spending money all the time for all and anyone around.  He would take 15 people to see a rock concert or a hockey game, bought the boys new video game systems and video games every weekend, bought garden supplies, supplies to put in a backyard kiln after my friend had said she thought she might want to make a pot, had a pool installed, bought a go-cart and mini-bike for the boys, $3000 vacuum cleaner… He traded her car in for a new, better, bigger car at least once a year, sometimes after only a few months. They were not in financial distress, but he was never concerned with how much money he spent.

I could never reconcile the goofball man with long hair and a beard who used to be a marine and an MP.

Fast forward a few years.  One day, my friend called me, totally hysterical because she came home to find him with a military style haircut, wearing a police uniform with guns and all – preparing to go to a part-time job that he had gotten with a police department in a small town nearby, having done all this in secret.  He swore it was only part-time because they needed the extra income (which they didn’t).

For several months, she expressed her extreme displeasure, fear, hatred.  Each time I would drive to their house, I would think, “What are the police doing here?”

Then I would remember that it was his patrol car.

Fast forward a few more months.  He is now working full-time as a cop – even though he promised it would only be part time.  She hates it.  He is also starting to exhibit bizarre behavior, restrictive rules for the kids, can’t keep from calling her every 10 minutes – even while he is at work, even while she is grocery shopping or picking up kids from school.

Tensions rise, arguments ensue, culminating in an episode involving him threatening to shoot himself in front of the 10 year old who runs from the house in his underwear to hide at the neighbors.

BPD - Borderline Personality DisorderHe eventually calms down and suggests that they need marital counseling – that she needs “help.”  Of course, he says it is “her” that needs help, and he is only going for her problems.

They go to the counseling where the therapist disagrees with his idea that the core issue is her problem.  They are both referred to a psychiatrist.  The psychiatrist diagnoses him with Borderline Personality Disorder – giving him medication and recommends extended therapy.  The psychiatrist gives her a prescription for situational anxiety disorder – as she is having intermittent panic attacks due to his behavior.  He recommends that my friend go to therapy to deal with her emotions surrounding the family issues and for their son to go to therapy to deal with the fact that his father flips out.

She decides to stay – based on his agreement to take medications and go to therapy.  Which he does not.  He does not believe the therapist or the physician were correct.
He then tells her that she needs to go to all of his police and wives functions – and makes plans to join the State Police Controlled Substances Crime division – sponsored by the governor.  Another episode involving a mental breakdown and a couple of loaded firearms occurs.

She puts her kid in the car – and leaves a beautiful home with a pool and all the money she could want, in order to escape.  He calls and calls and appears not to understand what happened, blaming the whole situation on her paranoia.  She never goes back and now lives as a single mom in a low-rent housing unit without financial assistance from him.  Apparently this is much better than dealing with him.

This man, my goofball friend – turned into a raving nutcase and likely it was not the first time (or the last time) he had done so.  He went back to his former wife to marry her for the third time.

Years later, we still get “restricted number” phone calls from him – for no apparent reason other than to check up on her.

Until this experience, I always thought that Borderline Personality Disorder was a fairly benign thing – they were secret manipulators but relatively innocuous – along the same lines as Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is irritating but not dangerous.  Now I know that is not true, Borderline Personality Disorder, also known as Emotionally UnstablePersonality Disorder is a real and valid psychiatric disorder that should be treated.

It is characterized by:

•    Occupational – Economic issues such as a sudden shift in career field cue to sudden changes in values, self-opinion
•    Antagonism
•    Separation anxiety and abandonment issues
•    Suicidal behavior
•    Multiple separations or divorces
•    Unstable, intense close relationships are vacillating with extreme anger
•    Harmful impulsiveness – including spending, reckless driving, thrill-seeking
•    Physical Violence
•    Chronic feelings of boredom which may contribute to impulsive activities
•    Irresponsibility

The National Institute of Mental Health says that Borderline Personality disorder is likely to last for many years and may be subject to relapse of symptoms which remiss but those core symptoms such as highly changeable moods and impulsive behavior will likely continue.

Melissa Lind

Causes of Anxiety

Anxiety can even be caused by anxiety.

Whether you have suffered from anxiety or not, you may wonder what the exact causes of anxiety are. The fact is that there are two possible types of causes of anxiety. The first is biological, and the second is emotional.

Anti AnxietyA biological source of anxiety is essentially a chemical imbalance. This means that the brain may be producing too much or not enough of certain chemicals or hormones. This imbalance can be caused by many things. It may be caused by medication that you are taking; it may be inherited through blood lines, or it may be caused by an illness, a surgery, or any number of things.

Emotional causes of anxiety can also be several. However, the number one culprit of anxiety brought on by emotional causes is stress. The stress may be slight, yet prolonged, or it could be short term but extreme. Either case could cause tension. Anxiety that results from an emotional reason may also be delayed. For example, if you are the victim of a traumatic crime, you may not experience feelings of anxiety immediately after the crime. Those feelings may crop up months or, even years, after the crime has been committed.

Anxiety can even caused by anxiety. For example, if you have one anxiety attack, you may fear another attack, which could increase the amount of fear that you feel, making matters worse. The mind is hugely powerful, and it can work with you and against you.

Anxiety can even occur due to other problems. For example, if you have an asthma attack, you may also suffer with an anxiety attack because you fear not being able to breathe. If you have a heart attack, you may experience an anxiety attack with it because you fear that you are dying. Again, the mind is extremely powerful.

When you suffer from anxiety, you should seek treatment and work with your health care professional to find the cause of your anxiety.

While there are many treatments for anxiety, the best treatment is to know and understand what is causing it.

Helpful resource:  Life without Panic Attacks

( Find Out How I Cured Myself Of 20 Years Of Panic Attacks In A Matter Of Days Using Eft. Simple Self-help Technique, No Courage Required. I’m A Wimp and If I Can Do It Anyone Can.)

 

The Age of Anxiousness

We appear to have entered the Age of anxiousness…

We’re living in extremely trying, and hard times and matters don’t seem to be getting any easier. Occasionally life may seem terribly painful and unjust, yet for some reason we manage to battle on, daily, hoping and praying that matters will soon get better.

The world seems to be a more stressful, crazier and less settled place to live in. Nothing appears safe any longer. Millions of individuals are in record levels of debt. Several are losing their jobs, their homes, their wellness and occasionally even their sanity. Bipolarity, depression and anxiety, seams to have become a way of life for way too many individuals.

Many problemsWe appear to have entered the Age of anxiousness. The ceaseless stress and doubts of living in the 21st century have for sure taken their toll. Switch on the news or open a paper and we’re bombarded with distressing images and stories. We start to wonder if we’re safe anyplace. In this, the info age, never before have we had such access to so much information.

Another stressor is the economic system. A lot of Americans are in debt and so is our country. Lofty gas prices, exorbitant housing costs, even the cost of food has sent a lot of Americans to work in jobs that are disappointing and frustrating. They work these jobs as they require a paycheck.

Now, instead of work in a dream career, it’s more crucial to bring home the bacon.

Having more women in the workplace adds to the tension. Numerous women feel they have to be everything to everybody, and that includes a paycheck earner, home keeper, mother, wife, daughter, and sibling. The only trouble with that is a few women just don`t make any time for themselves, therefore, contributing to their stress levels representing an all-time high.

Even youngsters may feel the pressure of stress and anxiety. Adolescents who want to go to college discover themselves pushing themselves during their studies to attempt and get scholarships so they may attend schools that have ever increased tuition prices.

On top of all that, they discover themselves having to hold down part- time jobs to make money for extras that their parents can no more afford. Add peer pressure into the mixture and you’ve got a veritable pressure cooker! Cells, internet, palm pilots, blackberries, and i-pods – we’re always on the go and forever approachable.  We don’t make time to unwind and enjoy life any longer. Why not? We surely should!

If stress is induced by us not feeling in control of a state of affairs, the answer is to attempt and reverse this, and find that control.

The good news is: you are able to! You’ve everything inside you that you require to overcome your stress and the accompanying anxiety. The issue is, as we feel so out of control at the time, that we often don’t realize it. But the tools are there you simply have to use them.

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